Do you class those suicides as selfish?
If it affects other peoples lives, yes.
Do you class those suicides as selfish?
If it affects other peoples lives, yes.
If people are driven by an overwhelming distress or terror then their actions aren't going to be rational.
If you were in the twin towers would you have burned to death or would you have jumped - in jumping you may well end up killing someone on the ground who had a chance of surviving while you had none.
I answered this just now but it has been deleted so cant be bothered to do it again.
Now is this an answer?![]()
I'm not sure if your repeated and deliberate flippancy is some kind of coping mechanism for having undergone some trauma yourself.
If it is, you have my sympathy.
There is something in that revolving around a divorce, not seeing my kids, child support agency taking 3/4 of my wages, father having incurable lung cancer, me working up to 80 hours a week, not being able to pay the rent never mind the bills (think thats about it), a car exhaust and a hose pipe.
you can work the rest out yourself, that was over 20 years ago and you know that old saying "what doesnt kill you makes you stronger" well its actually true.
The only way to prevent people .... It will not stop people from killing themselves, but merely force them to adopt other methods.
If people are driven by an overwhelming distress or terror then their actions aren't going to be rational.
If you were in the twin towers would you have burned to death or would you have jumped - in jumping you may well end up killing someone on the ground who had a chance of surviving while you had none.
Does it really make any difference whether someone who commits suicide is 'selfish' or indeed 'bad' (by whatever definition you choose to define 'bad')? The person is dead anyway so cannot be punished. The priority clearly has to be preventing people getting depressed in the first place. If people get depressed, that is a failure of society and/or scientific research. Eradicating depression and sadness in general would mean that all other problems, for example economic problems, would no longer matter.
I'm not convinced that depression can't be prevented, or at least cured. Obviously we currently have anti-depressants which help for some people. Future advances in neuroscience may well enable brains to be 're-programmed' to remove the tendencies that make some people get depression.
Or alternatively push them over the final ledge, so we should be careful.I think we should remember that there will be vulnerable people reading this thread, and our words here can make a difference - just a poster may be enough to prompt somebody to go and get treatment for their depression, and lead to a different outcome somewhere down the line.
I was told the other week that if a driver had three such incidents, he / she could retire on a full wage....from what I've read here, that does not seem to be the case. Can anyone shed any further light on this? I was told this by a member of staff on my last East Coast journey, which was delayed by a suicide at Adwick.
I was told the other week that if a driver had three such incidents, he / she could retire on a full wage....from what I've read here, that does not seem to be the case. Can anyone shed any further light on this? I was told this by a member of staff on my last East Coast journey, which was delayed by a suicide at Adwick.
In fact, there are many things that can be done, and are done, that actually make a huge difference. I've put some links below for additional information, but the statistics show that reducing one method of suicide definitely does lead to reducing overall suicide figures.
One thing that is known to make a big difference is the way that suicides are reported and discussed.
I think we should remember that there will be vulnerable people reading this thread, and our words here can make a difference - just a poster may be enough to prompt somebody to go and get treatment for their depression, and lead to a different outcome somewhere down the line.
http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/what-speak-us-about/i-want-kill-myself
http://www.samaritans.org/sites/default/files/kcfinder/files/Samaritans-ReducingSuicideTrain.pdf
http://www.who.int/mental_health/media/en/426.pdf
http://www.suicide.org/media-guidelines-for-suicide.html
I was told the other week that if a driver had three such incidents,
Some interesting (and quite moving) personal experiences here. So here's mine.
When I was younger, if my journey was disrupted by a 'one-under', I probably grumbled about the delay and impact it had on my day. So I guess I probably did think of suicides as selfish.
More recently, I suffered from depression. I was getting help, but it's a long battle. One day, a particularly bad day, I was at Newark North Gate station, waiting for my train. I was pacing up and down the platform, not really thinking of anything. And then a non-stopping train approached at high speed. In that split-second so many things went through my mind; including the thought that it would be so easy to finish it by just stepping off the platform.
Well as you can probably guess, I didn't. I turned around and found a bench to sit on. And I didn't move until my train arrived.
I wasn't thinking with any kind of rationality at the time. 'Selfish' to me suggests a positive decision to put oneself above the welfare of others. What I experienced wasn't that, it was an absence of awareness. It wasn't that I was reckless about what consequences my actions might have on the driver, passengers and other people. The fast thing approaching was a machine - I just wasn't consciously aware of any people at all.
Calling people with mental health issues 'selfish' makes about as much sense as calling people who die from cancer 'selfish'. No-one chooses it. It's something that happens to you. And being judgemental about people with depression really doesn't help; you may have someone in your life who's desperate to reach out for help - calling such people 'selfish' will only deter them from reaching out.
These site are worth checking out, if you're interested:
http://www.time-to-change.org.uk/
http://www.ruokday.com/
I don't think the general public have any idea how much "collateral damage" is caused when people throw themselves under trains.I'm convinced selfish isn't the word
Definitely true, in fact they made a film about it but based it on the underground.
As I saw it on telly it must be true!
That is actually a load of cr, um rubbish.
I don't think the general public have any idea how much "collateral damage" is caused when people throw themselves under trains.
Someone on the verge of suicide isn't going to sit down and work all the consequences of their actions, I really don't think it's fair to use the word selfish.
Dear ReverendFozz,Hi, I hope it is ok to post this topic, I hope I am not being insensitive in posting this, I apologise if this is the case.
I would like to know if anyone here has been witness to a suicide on the Tube, I only ask because many years ago, I witnessed a death at Kings Cross St Pancras Underground, and I was recalling my experience with a friend recently, talking about dark places and the utter feeling of hopelessness, and it brought back some memories, the suicide at Kings Cross, which affected me greatly, I went to London at least once or twice a year for about 5 years at the time and the first few times I went back, I would not anywhere near a tube station, and when I finally plucked up the courage to go back on the Tube, I had to stand back to a point where I could hardly see the platform and people on it, people too close to the edge frightens the hell out of me. I think when it happened I just ran away in tears and pretty much onto the first train back home utterly speechless, devastated and upset
So what is others views on this, what did it have, if it is ok for me to ask.