The SR principle was always to go past the target town station; that took precedent; that the EMU sheds (e.g. Ore, West Worthing) are where they are is a function of the extension through the town, not the other way round no way did they go past Hastings or Worthing just to provide a car shed.
Unfortunately writers on this stuff do not do their research fully, wrote incorrectly or incompletely, then that false story becomes embedded as history as is gets repeated and repeated.
On the basis of published sources:
West Worthing was already used as a terminus by the LBSCR (1906/20 Bradshaws on www.timetableworld.com) and the 1912 map online (NLOS) shows that the LBSC had purchased a large amount of land for a goods yard and ?carriage sidings and provided a turntable. So this isn't a case of "the SR going past the target station," there was a good commercial case for going to West Worthing already, and there was land available (whereas at Central the rebuild with an up loop had swallowed much of the goods yard and the site was in a fully built up area by 1912.
Ore likewise had extensive railway land on which the car shed fitted neatly, whereas at Hastings the SR concentrated on improving passenger facilites - there may have been a commercial reason for electrification to Ore, but my impression (60s-70s) is that the station was always pretty quiet, so I doubt it.
You are undoubtedly correct about Alton vs Farnham, though I would reckon Farnham was already an important centre.
I would suggest the true SR principle was to take advantage of whatever land was already available - not that they were unique in this.