.... I watched a YouTube video a few months ago which was a steam loco hauling a Special slipping and grinding to a halt on one of the steep climbs in Devon. The support diesel was shadowing quite far back as a light engine and there was substantial delay for it to catch up and help by pushing as a 'banker' (a term from my youth at The Lickey Incline which may still be in use).
Yes, far more common for the diesel to be attached on the back so that the diesel can assist before declaring a failure. Worst-case scenario is that a local passenger unit ends up between the charter and the shadowing diesel (it's happened before). The South Devon Banks can be a proper nightmare at times.
AFAIK the only place where detached assistance is regularly carried out is Victoria, with the 67 pushing the VSOE up the hill before stopping and returning to Stewart's Lane. Lickey still has bankers, but they do couple up (they have a special coupling that can be released from the cab on the move). Steam being banked up the Lickey would have the diesel attached from the start and would run non-stop through Bromsgrove if possible.
I've known NR to ask fo the diesel to run light behind when WCRC asked it to be attached on at least one occasion, but that was a particular set of circumstances. I've also known of DB bidding for a light loco to follow a train into a station for a quick reversal, but instead they had to run the light loco early and sit in a loop until the Charter arrived. Most of the time NR will work to what the TOC bids in respect of the diesel being attached or shadowing behind.