manners

[455driver]

Why cant people use their manners when they are asking a question/seeking information?

I have noticed quite a few posts recently just asking-

"can anyone tell me what was working 1A23"

no please or thank you included, is it too much effort to put a please and thank you in a post or are people just ignorant and selfish?

I will no longer be answering any post which does not include (at least) a please or thank you etc!

Thoughts everyone if you can spare the time please?

 

[jon0844]

Cough cough.

Thoughts everyone please?

 

[Ash Bridge]

Totally agree you, I was brought up to always say please and thankyou but sadly this lack of manners does seem to be getting increasingly common, and its not just the younger generation either.

 

[DaleCooper]

Hoist by his own petard.

 

[FQ]

I always use correct manners when asking questions and generally (please, please, please, thank you, please, thank you, thank you, thank you, please)

 

[Antman]

Why cant people use their manners when they are asking a question/seeking information?

I have noticed quite a few posts recently just asking-

"can anyone tell me what was working 1A23"

no please or thank you included, is it too much effort to put a please and thank you in a post or are people just ignorant and selfish?

I will no longer be answering any post which does not include (at least) a please or thank you etc!

Thoughts everyone?

TIA after such a question is normal internet etiquette

 

[455driver]

Cough cough.

Yeah okay, I will give you that one!

 

[backontrack]

TIA after such a question is normal internet etiquette

For those who googled what that means, it's 'thanks in advance'. Unfortunately, that wasn't the first answer. :roll:

 

[Bletchleyite]

I have noticed quite a few posts recently just asking-

"can anyone tell me what was working 1A23"

You could always answer that "yes, thankyou"

That's what my Scout leader used to do if you didn't ask politely. "Have you got X?" "Yes, thankyou".

 

[richw]

You could always answer that "yes, thankyou"

That's what my Scout leader used to do if you didn't ask politely. "Have you got X?" "Yes, thankyou".

I'm always tempted to do this when asked rudely, but thought against it, as I'm sure the mods would delete it if it was done.

 

[455driver]

I'm always tempted to do this when asked rudely, but thought against it, as I'm sure the mods would delete it if it was done.

They do as it 'adds nothing to thread', trust me on that one!

 

[D6975]

'can I get...'
is the one that annoys me when I hear people using it to request something in a shop.
May I have......please.
or
Could I have..... please.
seem to have been consigned to history for many folk.

 

[richw]

They do as it 'adds nothing to thread', trust me on that one!

That was my suspicion.

 

[61653 HTAFC]

"Can I get past there?"

"Only you can answer that, my friend!"

 

[edwin_m]

A bugbear of mine on some forums (not so much this one) is "Help on [whatever] required". The more polite word would be "requested" or simply "please".

 

[RichmondCommu]

Away from this forum I'm fed up of people saying "Can I get" when what they should be saying is "Please can I have". And this isn't just in London (we Londoners are notoriously rude ) but also in the East Midlands, Greater Manchester and Lancashire.

 

[STEVIEBOY1]

Away from this forum I'm fed up of people saying "Can I get" when what they should be saying is "Please can I have". And this isn't just in London (we Londoners are notoriously rude ) but also in the East Midlands, Greater Manchester and Lancashire.

I agree with your comments here.

There has been a noticeable lack of manners/politeness sadly for along time now.

If we were rude, impolite, lacked manners at school etc, we had to stay in after school for an hour or two and write out lines in the hope that would improve standards, the deterrent effect of that usually worked.

 

[455driver]

Why do I get the feeling that all my posts are now being checked for politeness after starting this thread!

Or am I being paranoid?

 

[ainsworth74]

Why do I get the feeling that all my posts are now being checked for politeness after starting this thread!

Or am I being paranoid?

It isn't paranoia if they're actually out to get you

 

[crehld]

I agree with your comments here.

There has been a noticeable lack of manners/politeness sadly for along time now.

If we were rude, impolite, lacked manners at school etc, we had to stay in after school for an hour or two and write out lines in the hope that would improve standards, the deterrent effect of that usually worked.

My grandparents kept moaning about the lack of manners displayed by people back in the 1940s. So, it's not a contemporary problem by any means!

 

[STEVIEBOY1]

My grandparents kept moaning about the lack of manners displayed by people back in the 1940s. So, it's not a contemporary problem by any means!

Yes that is true.

 

[trainophile]

I hope I ask my questions politely, I do try. However I'm never quite sure about the etiquette when someone has replied. I instinctively want to say thanks, but am aware that this actually "adds nothing to the discussion", and in my own experience it can be a bit annoying to open a thread expecting a new and interesting post, just to find someone has said thanks. I try to get around it by adding something that may be remotely more interesting than just thanks, but don't always succeed!

 

[Minilad]

I hope I ask my questions politely, I do try. However I'm never quite sure about the etiquette when someone has replied. I instinctively want to say thanks, but am aware that this actually "adds nothing to the discussion", and in my own experience it can be a bit annoying to open a thread expecting a new and interesting post, just to find someone has said thanks. I try to get around it by adding something that may be remotely more interesting than just thanks, but don't always succeed!

Thanks for that

 

[Calthrop]

My grandparents kept moaning about the lack of manners displayed by people back in the 1940s. So, it's not a contemporary problem by any means!

Yes that is true.

Texts which have come down from writers in ancient Greece, include lamentation about rude / selfish / anarchic behaviour on the part of the younger generation -- "when we were lads, we didn't act like this"...

 

[Oswyntail]

Like language, the idea of what constitutes "good manners" evolves constantly. The very word "please" is itself a somewhat curt and snappy shortening of "if you please". "Can I get a biscuit?" said in a pleasant manner is, IMHO, possibly more polite than a terse "biscuit, please".

 

[Calthrop]

Bad failed etiquette-follower ! No biscuit for you !

 

[61653 HTAFC]

Like language, the idea of what constitutes "good manners" evolves constantly. The very word "please" is itself a somewhat curt and snappy shortening of "if you please". "Can I get a biscuit?" said in a pleasant manner is, IMHO, possibly more polite than a terse "biscuit, please".

I'd agree that tone is as important as remembering one's Ps and Qs. One thing that really gets my goat though is when people (I say people, but it is ALWAYS men) rather than saying "excuse me" simply grab you by the shoulders and move you sideways to get past. In fact, my new years resolution is that the next bloke who does that to me is getting a thick ear delivered either verbally or manually!