the snag with the 'standardisation is good' argument is that firstly you end up continuing to produce stock that's technically obsolete for some time (as in SR's Mk1 derived EMUs being built into the 1970s)
Not necessarily now.
What you would do now is specify a simple connector and data format for train control signals, and then provide a second network layer connection throughout the train that carries
everything else. Both sets of connectors would be mounted to the auto-coupler but would be electrically separate.
Trains that don't understand the extra stuff will just pass it along the formation but won't otherwise use it.
Thanks to IP based systems we can make intervening vehicles transparent to unimportant signals.
That allows you to implement all sorts of things in the future without worrying about compatibility now.
It is no longer necessary that the control signals must directly actuate controls through relays or similar. Control signals would likely be implemented with something similar to the CAN bus. This would be cheap enough to allow it to be implemented on freight vehicles with some sort of four pin connector (+ Power, CAN+, CAN-, GND).
and eventually there has to be a 'step change' as in the change from the pre-1951 to post-1951 generations of EMU and to the 508 / 455 generation.
As opposed to the current system where we have a 'step change' with virtually
every single order.
Additionally AAR style control jumpers have been the same since they were standardised in the
forties.