Remember when the main irritation was being able to hear tinny noise leaking from headphones, and if you were the culprit, someone might actually ask you to turn the volume down? I'd happily return to that time now.
I feel that things seem to have rapidly gone downhill in the past few years, such that quite a large number of people have now decided it's fine to play whatever you like on your phone or tablet or laptop speakers.
It's become so widespread that I now wonder if it would be me who's out of step with social norms, if I were to ask someone to turn it off or get some headphones.
In the past, there might be one person in a carriage causing the noise irritation and a number of people around looking sufficiently annoyed that you would feel you'd have some backup if you decided to be the challenger.
Doesn't feel so much like that now.
Being retired for many years I think back to my early commuting days and there was, amongst 'us commuters' an unwritten rule that on the way in to work people sat and read their papers, or at most you might just hear a quiet whisper between two people occasionally. I learnt this in my late teens, it was just a case of mutual respect for each other on what was a crowded train. The one small part of the day when those going to work had a bit of peace to think, read or snooze, between the home (life) and the office. This may sound ridiculously old hat now, but that's how it was.
The largely (but not exclusively) generational/culture change that has evolved in more recent times, in life generally, doesn't always seem to respect such behaviours. There are those who are so engrossed in their own world, they don't give a thought to the space (and people) around them, but if approached because they were annoying others, would be embarrassed and apologetic. Then there are others intent on doing what ever they like and to hell with anyone who objects. There are times when it seems that the latter are in such numbers that they swamp the former, and as a result others who just want a quiet journey (talking of trains) feel intimidated in to saying/doing nothing, and so their experience of (in this case) train travel is marred.
In my younger years I generally never had a problem with approaching those on the train who were acting in ASB ways, be it loud music, feet (in shoes) on seats - a bug bear of mine - albeit I instinctively weighed situations up before doing so (ie: do I do this myself or get assistance) and it did help that I was in railway uniform for a period, but even after that (in civvies) when I would use my railway ID as authority. The trick was to always be polite, although there were exceptions - a newbie guard only passed out a day or two before on one occasion who was delaying his train (on which I was passing), so I approached him and he told me three adults, tanked up, were being very AS in one carriage and other passengers were becoming uneasy. Rather than turf everyone out, my offer of riding with the guard was accepted and we continued, the driver in the meantime made contact with the signaller to get BTP assistance at a station further down the line. The guard and I positioned ourselves in the carriage concerned more as reassurance to other passengers, and received a deluge of verbal abuse, but at least it was at us and not other passengers (did our presence in the carriage antagonise the culprits even more - in this case, I don't think so. They had already been giving other passengers a tirade of verbal BS. Most of the latter had by then moved to other carriages anyway.
Further on one very burly PS (Police Sergeant) turns up and singlehandedly removed the miscreants from the train and that was that!
On the other side of the coin, whilst just chatting to a member of gateline staff at a certain London station, one individual carrying a holdall barges his way through the barrier without offering a ticket, so the staff member calls after him and starts to follow him out the station. I tag along behind. This guy then stops, drops his bag, opens it and pulls out a claw hammer - that was the point I called out to my colleague (the railway was then still 'a family' - to me anyway - and I liked to think most of us would have each others back if needed) - and said, 'leave him, it ain't worth it, just let him go....'
As I say, it was partly about weighing a situation up, making a judgement, going with ones gut.
It's the wider problem though. A lot of people need discipline and the country has gone so soft that people push the boundaries more and more.
Agreed.