Well if you want to make that analogy closer to the EU, then you also have to say that the UK would have a veto that we could use against such a thing.
Also, I would certainly question what the UK was doing in such a union if that was the kind of law that it wanted to pass. But the EU isn't trying to pass laws like that. The EU are not trying to enforce laws on us that are "totally at odds with who we are".
Just because the EU is less outrageous than Africans banning homosexuality doesn’t make it necessarily in Britain’s interest to remain in it. I was using a hypothetical example.
And finally, I find it quite amusing that you are using an analogy of "you were outvoted. I’m afraid that’s democracy for you" because that is essentially what the leavers have been saying for the last almost 2 years in an attempt to get those of us who wanted to remain to shut up.
But that’s exactly the justification for what democracy is in the EU. “Look, there’s a Parliament, and we have a seat on the Council”. That’s not nearly a sufficient explanation of why the EU is democratic at all. That’s what I’m trying to illustrate.
Democracy is more than that. Be amused all you like, but the hypocrisy is equal on both sides. Leavers waving their arms saying “we won, democracy” and Remainers using exactly the same analogy in explaining why Leavers were wrong to vote the way they did.
A significant number of people feel the EU is alien and doesn’t legislate in the their interests. Who are we to tell them they’re wrong?
None of this changes the fact we were outvoted though! I find the whole debate astonishing, particularly the denial that nations exist for more than merely arbitrary reasons by several people. That’s basically Marxism, and I’m surprised. Though we’re all entitled to our own opinion.