TheKnightWho
Established Member
I think you're making two mistakes.
Firstly, intolerance against gays would be things like committing violence against, or ostracising, or treating people really badly purely because those people are gay. The mere fact of believing that gay marriage should not be legalized is nothing remotely like that. I can think of a few people I know who have that opinion, but at the same time would treat gays with exactly the same respect that they do for others. So I'm not saying that that point of view is justified intolerance, I'm saying it's not (by itself) intolerance. Discriminatory, sure. Unfair, sure. But those are different things. I think you're devaluing the word 'intolerance' by applying it far more widely than it really means (Although obviously there is a bit of subjectivity about what constitutes intolerance).
But secondly, you're using the word in a way that insults and shows disrespect to others.
Suppose you're trying to persuade someone that gay marriage should be legal: Here are two possible arguments you could put:
- Making gay marriage legal would make a massive difference to many people who otherwise feel that love and commitment to each other is not adequately represented by laws. It also removes what is arguably a discriminatory anomaly whereby some people through not fault of their own are not allowed to get married to their chosen partner. And it would achieve all this without harming anyone.
- You're just being intolerant by opposing gay marriage.
Which of those do you think is more likely to pursuade the person you're (hypothetically) talking to?
And it's the same thing with UKIP. Personally I wouldn't dream of supporting UKIP, because I perceive so much to be wrong with not just their policies, but their whole underlying philosophy. But I have no doubt that many people who support UKIP presumably do so for genuine reasons. They are for whatever reason convinced that UKIP will somehow make life better. I think you and I both agree that those people are mistaken. But wouldn't it be more constructive to explain what specifically you think is wrong with UKIP's policies, rather than labelling them, and UKIP, with the somewhat subjective, and inflammatory, label 'intolerant' (or with similar subjective labels like 'a joke' or 'dangerous'? (Even if you personally think some of those policies do amount to intolerance)
1) Firstly, as I've already said, it's not reasonable to define intolerance merely as direct, targeted and conscious prejudice as you are doing. It ignores more insidious, subtle and (frankly) dangerous forms of intolerance that seep through our society. As I've said already, defining it in the way you do first of all doesn't fully address the issue, as just because someone doesn't mean to be harmful doesn't mean they aren't, and secondly allows people to conveniently define the issue in such a way as it doesn't target them. The reason I define intolerance broadly (and, indeed, I think opposing gay marriage is intolerant even by your definition in most cases), is because I want a definition of intolerant that is meaningful and cannot easily be avoided. And hey, even if you don't call it intolerant, that doesn't make it any better than what it is, which is discriminating against someone based on an aspect of their life that's none of anyone else's business. If that's not intolerance then I don't know what is.
2) Secondly, calling me rude doesn't change the fact that these issues do very much affect me and they do very much affect my life. It also doesn't make me wrong. I mean, I feel like UKIP are disrespecting my existence by wanting to ban, regulate or otherwise insult a number of areas of my life - me being a bit arrogant and calling them intolerant hardly compares.
These are issues I encounter every day, and yours are arguments that I deal with every day. I don't mean to be condescending, but what I'm trying to say is that these are issues I've thought about, and the reason I act the way I do is because it's not always easy to be calm and "reasonable" (whatever that means) when people are literally arguing that some core part of you is morally repugnant.
Finally, saying that people support UKIP for genuine reasons might be true. That doesn't mean I have to view it as right, and it certainly doesn't mean I have to respect their decision. Views can still be poorly thought out, ignorant or otherwise worse than they could be, and standing behind the "it's just my opinion" argument doesn't really say anything at all other than the fact that it's not illegal to have your opinion. Indeed, I'd like them to explain to me why they want to impose themselves on my life in the way they do - and so frankly it very much is my business.
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