Poll: Living arrangements...

[DarloRich]

I would say to anyone - move out and get your own place. It is better for you than living at home until you are 30. I know it is hard and expensive but it is for the best. Think of the independence and the responsibility that goes with that independence.

It will really help you develop and mature as a person. I left home at 18 to go to university. No halls for me straight into a rented flat. It was fantastic. I have been back living with my parents for periods and it is hard once you have been out on your own.

 

[GatwickDepress]

I would say to anyone - move out and get your own place. It is better for you than living at home until you are 30. I know it is hard and expensive but it is for the best. Think of the independence and the responsibility that goes with that independence.

It will really help you develop and mature as a person. I left home at 18 to go to university. No halls for me straight into a rented flat. It was fantastic. I have been back living with my parents for periods and it is hard once you have been out on your own.

That's my long-term goal, but considering even the cheapest flat would cost me more than 90% of my wages... I'm going to hold off for a few years.

 

[Tetchytyke]

I'm kinda interested in how many students still live in shared houses

Most still do live in houseshares, just not for all of their course.

In many University cities the universities themselves are cutting back their own halls provision, which means that you get increased numbers of private halls. Freshers go into these halls, and then you have the rise of the international student market and the postgraduate student market too.

Opposite the station in Newcastle there's a new "luxury" student halls. It has three main marketing offices: they're in Alderley Edge, Shanghai and in Singapore. That says everything you need to know about where the market is going. Student halls are big business right now- you can charge a fortune but the buildings are very cheap to chuck up- and that's why you see so many of them.

It's funny to see the permanent residents in the student areas complaining, though. For years here they've railed against the students "ruining" their areas, but now the students are moving out into the "luxury" halls suddenly they're now railing against the students for causing local businesses to struggle.

I would say to anyone - move out and get your own place. It is better for you than living at home until you are 30. I know it is hard and expensive but it is for the best. Think of the independence and the responsibility that goes with that independence.

I'd definitely agree with that. I left home at 18 to go to University. Spent my first year in halls and after that in a shared house, before moving in with my girlfriend at the time. Bought my first house at 22, once I'd married her. I lost money on that house but I don't regret it, it certainly beat living at home. I love my mum but I'd probably smother her with a pillow within a month if I had to live with her

 

[DarloRich]

That's my long-term goal, but considering even the cheapest flat would cost me more than 90% of my wages... I'm going to hold off for a few years.

it is easier in the north east for example than in Milton Keynes. If i was down here at that time I would have looked for flat share. It isnt great but is better than living at home

 

[D365]

it is easier in the north east for example than in Milton Keynes. If i was down here at that time I would have looked for flat share. It isnt great but is better than living at home

Funny you should say that, I am looking to move back home from the north in the coming months as I will be taking up a job based in Milton Keynes. I believe it will be about 50 minutes drive up the A421.

I've considered a flat share but as I understand it, I will be travelling a fair bit, so I don't really want to pay rent if I'm going to be gone a lot of the time.

 

[Cowley]

I won't go into explaining our living arrangements now, suffice to say that having six kids between us makes things at times a little complicated and we've had to be quite imaginative with our living accommodation to fit everyone in, especially as most of them are the same size as us now.
What I would say though is this: When I was a nipper of 18 I bought myself a camper van so that I could use it to volunteer at a steam railway and have somewhere to stay. I started using it for other holidays though and after one such trip to Cornwall I realised that it was completely my own space and I actually slept better in it than anywhere else because it was my own. I then spent the next three years living in it permanently and it was absolutely brilliant. Free accommodation, nice and comfortable, the only bills were food and a bottle of gas every couple of months.
If I was on my own now I'd do it again as it was cheap living and when you get into it you realise there's lots of safe places to park up for nothing.
Who says you have to rent a house/room etc for loads of money? Think outside the box (or inside the box) I decided.
Pack it full of insulation and you'll be warm all year round too.
At one place I used to work, I'd park up outside the night before and they'd bring a cup of tea out to me at 830am, I'd have a bit of toast in the van and stroll in in the morning ready for action at 9 when they'd all been up for hours already. It made all of us chuckle.
Anyway, just thought I'd mention it as an idea. Renting is a costly business these days and sometimes there's an alternative.

 

[RichmondCommu]

it is easier in the north east for example than in Milton Keynes. If i was down here at that time I would have looked for flat share. It isnt great but is better than living at home

And I would have thought much easier to get laid than bringing someone back to your parents place.

 

[Jonny]

One reason for staying with my parents is that they do help to keep my weight in check. When I was away at university I put a lot of weight on and I'm only just losing it now, years later.

And I would have thought much easier to get laid than bringing someone back to your parents place.

We're not all out to get laid for the sake of it; besides that having Mummy and Daddy within earshot keeps over-enthusiastic lovers in check.

 

[D365]

And I would have thought much easier to get laid than bringing someone back to your parents place.

Whoa whoa whoa, this is a family-friendly forum is it not

One reason for staying with my parents is that they do help to keep my weight in check. When I was away at university I put a lot of weight on and I'm only just losing it now, years later.

As a student you eat what you want, when you want. If you're living at home though you tend to go back to eating more balanced dishes at set times.

Saying that though, I've taken a vegetable steamer set back with me to uni. Don't know how I ever stood boiled vegetables.

 

[najaB]

Whoa whoa whoa, this is a family-friendly forum is it not

To be fair, he did say 'get laid' rather than [deleted], [redacted] or [you can still say that?!]

 

[richw]

; besides that having Mummy and Daddy within earshot keeps over-enthusiastic lovers in check.

When I was 17, my mum asked me to move in with my 80+ year old gran, so gran wasn't living alone. Gran was deaf as an old door post so there was no need to keep quiet! I could get a girl in and gran would be totally oblivious to me even being home! Saying that my gran wasn't bothered anyway when she knew I had girls back as I introduced her to the ones I was more serious about!
Strangely my gran was more in touch with a teenage male lifestyle than my mum. Gran wasn't bothered about me going out in the evenings or when I got home from a night out. My mum imposed curfews- im nearly 30 now and if we go down to stay for a few nights she still imposes curfews now!

 

[D365]

To be fair, I didn't know that anyone on this forum has actually bought a girl back at all

 

[DaleCooper]

Whoa whoa whoa, this is a family-friendly forum is it not.

Where do you think families come from?

 

[DaleCooper]

To be fair, I didn't know that anyone on this forum has actually bought a girl back at all

I hope you mean "brought".

 

[theblackwatch]

And I would have thought much easier to get laid than bringing someone back to your parents place.

Does anyone go out and bring someone back nowadays? I thought everyone just stayed at home and used tinder or grindr! Mind you, having your own place would be easier for that too...

In all seriousness, I agree that moving out from home is a good move, certainly before you're 30. As others have said, as well as the independence, it teaches responsibility.

 

[RichmondCommu]

We're not all out to get laid for the sake of it; besides that having Mummy and Daddy within earshot keeps over-enthusiastic lovers in check.

I didn't suggest that anyone was. However I would like to think that members who have reached the age of consent have a healthy sex life or else they are missing out.

"Over enthusiastic lovers" is certainly a new one on me! Do you mean that they're having sex too often?

 

[RichmondCommu]

Whoa whoa whoa, this is a family-friendly forum is it not

Indeed it is however I would be surprised if there are forum members who don't know what getting laid means

 

[richw]

I didn't suggest that anyone was. However I would like to think that members who have reached the age of consent have a healthy sex life or else they are missing out.

"Over enthusiastic lovers" is certainly a new one a me! Do you mean that they're having sex too often?

I saw your post as being realistic. Teenage lads go out and sometimes get lucky. Maybe not the case with some of our contributors!

 

[Gathursty]

I live at home. I've lived away at uni, all 4 years in halls, and when you're not partying or studying, it can be quite lonely, then again, my uni was outside of the city it is named after. I pretty much accept that I am Generation Rent and prefer to live at home rather than some cheap flat where who knows who lives next/above/below/across from me. I have a gf and there is no issue around matters sexual with my parents. I'm 27 and am not yet in a position to put a deposit down on a house.

However if I did win the lottery, I'd obviously buy a house and move out of Wigan and in to Marlow.

 

[najaB]

However I would like to think that members who have reached the age of consent have a healthy sex life or else they are missing out.

Don't remind me... :cry:

 

[D365]

I didn't suggest that anyone was. However I would like to think that members who have reached the age of consent have a healthy sex life or else they are missing out.

"Over enthusiastic lovers" is certainly a new one a me! Do you mean that they're having sex too often?

Indeed it is however I would be surprised if there are forum members who don't know what getting laid means

No comment from me here

 

[DaleCooper]

Indeed it is however I would be surprised if there are forum members who don't know what getting laid means

It's what happens to eggs, turf, tables and tarmac, isn't it?

 

[Tetchytyke]

I didn't know that anyone on this forum has actually bought a girl back at all

I've had fallow patches, but never had to buy a girl

We're not all out to get laid for the sake of it

Speak for yourself